Would You Do This in Front of Your Mom or Dad?

What’s the biggest thing going viral on the web today?  Graphic photos of a couple having sex on the roof of Waite Phillips Hall at the University of Southern California. According to the New York Daily News, the photos allegedly show a Kappa Sigma Fraternity member from USC and an unidentified female (not a student of USC) openly engaging in sex. [No, I’m not going to link to the photos, they are easy enough to find].

Although I am not a psychologist, I think it’s safe to assume that the woman in question is not comfortable with her role in the drama since she keeps her shirt on during the entire show.  I feel for her today and yet, I want to shake some sense into her.  WHERE ARE YOUR GIRLFRIENDS!  Didn’t one try to talk you out of the public display?

Just two weeks ago, writer Meredith Fineman published a story in Education News about an email sent by a member of that same fraternity, same college, that read in part:

Note: I will refer to females as “targets”. They aren’t actual people like us men. Consequently, giving them a certain name or distinction is pointless.

Pie: A target’s vagina. Some of you may have heard phrases such as, twat, cooter, muff, snatch, poontang, cock pocket, DNA dumpster, fun hatch, cock sock, the fish flap, spunk-pot, whisker biscuit, or the rarely used, wizard’s sleeve. All these terms are interchangeable and fine to use. However, for the purpose of this memo, I will refer to a target’s vagina as pie.

This part of the email is the least offensive (hard to believe).  You can read the email in full on Jezebel, but be prepared to be insulted.  What’s worse, if you have a daughter heading off to college, be prepared to be frightened.

The Jezebel article cites the school paper, the Daily Trojan,  quoting the executive director of Kappa Sigma Fraternity as saying, “The content [of the e-mail] is contrary to everything [Kappa Sigma stands] for and we are not going to allow individuals to attempt to tarnish our name in any form or fashion,” said Mitchell Wilson, executive director of Kappa Sigma Fraternity. “We will pursue this as far as we can.”

No one seems to know where the email actually came from or if it was really written by a Sigma Kappa Fraternity member.  My bet is the guy on top of the roof at Waite Phillips Hall is connected.

What made the woman engage in such a public display on the roof over the weekend is unclear.  I suppose we can assume she wanted the boy to like her, thought he loved her, thought it would be fun, was afraid he would do it with someone else, etc.  I know she wasn’t thinking of herself.  As children, young girls are taught to think of others before we consider ourselves.  We need to change this part of our culture. It’s not about being selfish, it’s about taking care of ourselves.

When you see the photos of the girl on the roof, you’ll notice that the boy controls the entire scenario, she moves where he moves.  Women who tend to stand up for themselves are often labeled “difficult” or “bitches.”  And, for some reason, that moniker is something no woman wants possess.  So, many often end up like the girl on the roof (literally and figuratively).

Perhaps writer Rebecca West said it best, “I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat or a prostitute.”